Divorce

Most Americans today get a divorce because of their unhappy marriages. Many reasons why married couples get a divorce. One of the reasons is due to not knowing how to be good parents because of how they were raised. Another is having irreconcilable differences that play a major rule for divorce in marriages. Divorces can impact children when their parents separate. There are financial burdens when ending a marriage. Who do the children usually live with after the divorce, and which parent might be best to live with.

Adult children who are parents and married with children that have experienced divorce in their family growing up are more likely to follow in their parent’s footsteps. These parents with young children can have trouble making decisions or solving problems well together because of their different points of views. For example, how parents discipline their children differently instead of working together to punishment their children. They have also witness their parents causing contentions in trying to solve difficult problems the incorrect way. The married couple may not know how to be good parents from seeing their parent’s examples.

There can be irreconcilable differences between the two parents and things that cause them to end the marriage. Parents have different perspectives in disciplining their children. For example, there are inconsistencies where one parent doesn’t follow through with punishment. Another variation is when parents each handle the money differently. One could spend money on their things for their hobbies instead of paying for house bills, clothes, and other expenses that are top priority for the family. Also, they have incompatible careers where one parent works more at nights while the other one travels more for work. In addition, death of a child who is chronically ill which can be very stressful on the marriage. Parents grieving could cloud their judgments of communication and blame each other for the loss. It’s important that they get counsel if they are having a hard time working it out on their own. With all the inconsistencies could lead the couple to a divorce.

There are many outcomes that effect children in divorce families. One may be children believing they don’t deserve to have their parents stay together. Children can be stressing emotionally, socially, and physically in unhealthy ways. These children are less likely to graduate high school and attend college then children whose parents have successful marriages. They could marry someone out of wedlock and not have a successful marriage. In addition, the roles of the children in the family could change when there is only one parent in the household. No matter what age the children are and their parents get a divorce it can still affect them.

When parents get a divorce, it does not come cheap for both of them and for their children. Parents now have to own their separate homes and be financially independent. Moreover, children have to travel back and forth between the two homes. There has to be more things added in the homes for the children. Typically, children have less access to spend time with both parents because the father is working while the mother is going back to college.

The children usually live with their mother because the courts request the fathers to earn more money than he is already making. He may even move conveniently away from the ex-wifes’s house to receive a better paying job. The father has full responsibility to pay for child support. The children get more attention from the parent that they live with. If a parent speaks badly about the other spouse, children will perceive this negative view about their other parent. This will lead them to think I don’t want to see mom/dad anymore. It easier if the father doesn’t come to visit because of so much tension between the two parents. The father may want to be a “Disneyland dad” and not make his children do chores while they are visiting because he wants to be the fun parent.