Early Marriage Adjustments

Newlyweds adjusting to live with each other in the first year of marriage may run into some difficulties. Both husband and wife may do things different in the household. They both learned different things as they were raised by their parents. For example, looking through the husband’s private mail without his consent or the husband doing the wife’s laundry. It’s important for the married couple to discuss the boundaries so they are on the same page. They shouldn’t share certain things about their spouses to their friends, like how they fight together when raising their first child. This violates each other personal matters and affairs. The couple should compromise and settle their differences so there is no conflict. The husband and wife should divide chores between each other. This way the wife or husband won’t feel like she is doing all the work. The married couple should not tell friends and family about their fights. It’s between them to resolve the issue.

Parents of the newlyweds should have no stewardship over their children when they are adults. The parents don’t need to get involved in their children’s relationship with their spouse. If the child needs help they can ask for advice, but there should be no involvement or getting in between the problems the children have without being asked. This can lead to mistrust in the newlyweds relationship.